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Should I Share the Details of My Estate Plan?

March 10, 2022Estate Planning

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If you have an estate plan in place, you already recognize the numerous benefits an estate plan offers. Once your plan is in place, however, you may struggle with deciding how much (if any) of the details of that plan to share with beneficiaries and heirs of your estate. Ultimately, it is a very personal decision; however, the North Andover estate planning attorney at DeBruyckere Law Offices discuss whether you should share the details of your estate plan.

Advantages of Sharing Details of Your Estate Plan

Discussing the details of your estate plan — particularly those details that relate to how your estate assets are to be distributed after you are gone – may be an uncomfortable conversation to say the least. There are, however, several reasons why doing so may be your best choice.

One reason to share your estate plan details with loved ones is so that they will know what to do is something happens to you. After your death, for example, someone must step in and take care of the practical and legal things required to settle your affairs and probate your estate. Discussing your estate plan details with the person you appoint as your Executor ensures that he/she is prepared to step up when the time comes to fulfill his/her duties. It will also make your Executor’s job easier if he/she has prior knowledge of your overall estate plan and knows where your estate planning documents, and financial records are stored.

The same basic concept applies in the event you become incapacitated. If you executed an advance directive that named someone as your health care Agent, it can save time and stress if that person is already aware of the appointment and is ready to act when the time comes to do so. Likewise, if you have a living will in place it will make difficult decisions easier for your family if they already know your wishes as set forth in the living will.

Another reason to share your estate plan details is to decrease the likelihood of litigation.  For instance, if you know that decisions you made within your estate plan are likely to be controversial, letting beneficiaries know ahead of time may reduce the likelihood of litigation after you are gone. Remaining silent may make it easier to question – and legally challenge – your bequests within your Will once you are gone

Disadvantages of Sharing Details of Your Estate Plan

For many people the strongest argument against sharing the details of their estate plan is simply that they want those details to remain private. You absolutely have the right to keep the details private – at least until after your death. Once your Will is submitted to probate it becomes public record, meaning the details of your Will do not remain private. A trust, on the other hand, does not go through probate. As such, the terms of a trust agreement will remain private.

You may also feel that divulging the details of your estate plan while you are alive will lead to too much controversy. A long-standing family feud could be ignited once again or siblings could turn on each other once they are made aware of how your estate is to be distributed. If you disinherit an heir (especially a child) in your Will, you may also prefer to keep that decision to yourself if it will cause significant discord within the family.

Creating a Letter of Instruction

Once compromise is to create a Letter of Instruction. This is a document that allows you to provide relevant information to beneficiaries that is not included elsewhere in your plan. Although it is not a legally binding document, it can provide you with the ability to explain decisions you made elsewhere in your estate plan. In essence, this lets you explain things after the fact instead of while you are here which can help prevent discord or litigation.

Contact a North Andover Area Estate Planning Attorney

For more information, please join us for an upcoming FREE seminar. If you have additional questions about estate planning, contacta North Andover area estate planning attorney at DeBruyckere Law Offices by calling (603) 894-4141 or (978) 969-0331 to schedule an appointment.

Will the details of my plan be kept private after I am gone?

Your Will becomes public record during probate. If you want to keep the details private, consider using a trust to distribute assets.

How can I avoid a Will contest?

One way is to include a no contest clause in your Will that effectively provides an incentive for not contesting your Will.

Can I put anything I want in a Letter of Instruction?

Yes, you can include anything you think is important in a Letter of Instruction. Just remember that a Letter of Instruction is not a legally binding document.

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Daniel DeBruyckere
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Attorney Daniel A. DeBruyckere has been practicing law in New Hampshire and Massachusetts since 1998, and has helped hundreds of clients with their estate planning and elder care issues. He is very well respected in the area of estate planning, probate, trust administration, elder law issues, and business planning.
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