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Andover Elder Law Attorneys — What to Do If You Suspect a Family Member Is Abusing Your Mother

July 27, 2017Elder Law

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Unfortunately, abuse and neglect of the elderly are not new problems in the United States. As the population of older individuals continues to grow at a heretofore unheard of rate, however, the issue of elder abuse is gaining more prominence in the media and in the American conscience. When a parent starts to really show signs of aging, a decision has to be made regarding the parent’s care. People often resist the idea of sending a parent to a long-term care facility, preferring that a family member cares for the parent instead. What happens though, if you begin to suspect that the family member who is supposed to be caring for your mother is abusing her? The Andover elder law attorneys at DeBruyckere Law Offices explain what to do if you believe a family member is abusing your parent.

Elder Law Fact and Figures

Most people are aware that elder abuse and neglect occur in the U.S.; however, the average person is not aware of how often they occur. Gathering precise facts and figures relating to elder abuse and neglect is challenging for several reasons. First, because most states have only recently enacted specific laws relating to elder abuse, uniform reporting requirements are not yet in place. In addition, many seniors do not report abuse or neglect because they are embarrassed or ashamed to be a victim. Incidences of abuse also go unreported because many elderly victims remain dependent on their abusers for basic necessities. Despite the difficulties involved in compiling accurate data, experts have published some facts and figures relating to elder abuse and neglect, including:

  • Experts believe more than one in 10 seniors will be the victim of elder abuse
  • Each year, there are over 5 million instances of financial exploitation with a senior victim
  • For every instance of elder abuse reports, as many as 14 go unreported.
  • 90 percent of the perpetrators are family members
  • When a family member is the perpetrator, two-thirds of the time it is an adult child or spouse of an adult child.

What Can You Do If You Suspect Abuse?

You may find yourself in a particularly uncomfortable situation if you begin to suspect that your mother is being abused and the potential perpetrator is a family member. If you are wrong, your accusations could cause a rift in the family for many years to come. If you are rights, however, that might cause an even bigger conflict within the family. If your gut instinct is sending off alarm bells, however, you need to listen because your mother could be in serious danger. The following steps should either confirm or alleviate your suspicions.

  1. Talk to your mother. If your mother is capable of discussing the issue, sit down and do so. She may be reluctant to open up initially, but after you explain your concerns and tell you how often elder abuse happens, she might be more likely to confide in you if she really is being abused or neglected.
  2. Install a nanny cam. An increasingly popular option is to install a hidden “nanny cam” to try and catch the abuse on video. Although it may not be admissible in court, it can help confirm – or alleviate – your suspicions.
  3. Report your suspicions. If you are convinced the abuse or neglect is real, report your suspicions to the proper law enforcement authorities so there is a written report on file.
  4. Consult an elder law attorney. Consulting with an experienced elder law attorney is important because you may need to take legal steps to get your mother out of the situation she is in at the moment. For example, you may need to petition to become her legal Guardian.

Contact Andover Elder Law Attorneys

For more information, please download out FREE estate planning worksheet. If you have additional questions or concerns about what to do if you suspect a family member is abusing one of your parents, contact the experienced Andover elder law attorneys at DeBruyckere Law Offices by calling (603) 894-4141 or (978) 969-0331 to schedule an appointment.

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Attorney Daniel A. DeBruyckere has been practicing law in New Hampshire and Massachusetts since 1998, and has helped hundreds of clients with their estate planning and elder care issues. He is very well respected in the area of estate planning, probate, trust administration, elder law issues, and business planning.
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